The compliance of my group members
In my final year (level
400) at university, some group members failed to add my name to our final
project work. A few days before our dissertation (thesis) presentation, I
signaled the group leader that my name and signature were not on the project
work.
The group leader and some
members of the group started blaming each other. I stood there angry and, at
the same time, surprised because I did not understand why the group leader did
not recognize that my name was not recorded on the final project work.
While the group members
argued and complained, I told the group leader to find ways to solve the issue.
We worked it out. The supervisor of our project work gave us a letter alerting
the officers in our department in charge of our thesis that I participated in
the work.
It was then that my name
and signature were reflected in the final project work. What would have
happened if I had joined the members complaining? I had the right to argue with
the group members because I contributed financially, intellectually, and
socially.
However, I thought twice.
I said that arguing with the members would not solve the problem. Complaining
will lead to confusion and conflict within the group, worsening the matter. Have
you been in a meeting or group where people argue and complain?
Most often, groups that
complain make matters worse. I prefer complying (offering a solution) rather
than complaining. As stated, I could have accused the group leader of not
including my name in the final thesis.
However, I chose not to
point fingers. I decided to find a way to get out of the enemy’s cage. Have you
been to a financial institution, organization, or meeting where an officer maltreated
you?
Let’s assume an officer
in a banking hall or hospital maltreats you. Instead of complaining or fighting
back the officer, start complying. I mean, use a wise method to resolve the
issue. Locate the manager or senior officer in the bank or hospital and report
the unfair treatment of the officer.
In this way, you have
complained professionally. Sometimes, I marvel when people make promises. As we
all know, most politicians say things the public wants to hear. They make
promises they know they cannot fulfill.
Most politicians do that
to entice the crowd. Instead of making promises, show what you have done. Let
people know how you will accomplish the promises. After all, everybody can
talk. It is time to stop complaining and start complying.
The seed of pride
Have you asked yourself
why people hate, oppose, and reject you? Maybe you have not recognized that you
are proud. God resists the proud. However, He gives grace to the humble (see
James 4:6).
One reason God commanded
his angels to cast Satan out of Heaven was because of pride (see Ezekiel
28:13-17, Isaiah 14:12-15). Stop complaining and start complying. In my
previous article, I stated that we
must avoid timidity and become courageous (bold).
Kindly read that article
for more profound revelations. Boldness and pride differ. A proud person looks
down on others. However, a bold person helps the weak. Humble yourself because
pride is a seed of the enemy.
One reason people don’t
want to associate with you is because of your pride. You don’t listen to wise
counsel. You think you are the only wise person. You think you are the most
knowledgeable person in the group.
Remember my previous
article? I stated that acting like a lamb when you are supposed to act like a
lion will make the wild animals devour you. In the same way, acting like a lion
when you are supposed to act like a lamb will make people depart from you.
We act like lions when
wild animals surround us. We act like lambs when domestic animals surround us. I
hope you understand my point. You must know when to act like a lion and when to
act like a lamb.
Pride is a secret killer.
It makes you blind to your mistakes. Pride opens the portal for wicked spirits
(demons) to impress, suppress, oppress, depress, and possess you. Pride makes
you a potential prey for the enemy.
Pride is a negative energy that chases sincere people from you. Stop complaining that people hate
you. It’s because of your pride. You are too proud to submit to godly
authorities. Analyze the lions.
They don’t live long. However,
lions are the kings of the jungle. Lions are strong and dominant. However,
their pride often makes them vulnerable. You become vulnerable when you lift
yourself.
Check your character and
attitude. Are there some elements of pride within you? Humble yourself. Repent
from that prideful habit because you are human. You have limitations. Try
visiting the cemetery and the mortuary.
See how doctors practice
post-mortem (autopsy). You can watch human autopsy online (YouTube). You will
see that humans are nothing! Money, cars, airplanes, yachts, mansions, and
power are good.
However, they are
temporary. You need people. Stop complaining that people don’t want to
associate with you. It’s because of your pride. Stop complaining that people
dislike you. It’s because of your pride!
Don’t you visit the
toilet? Maybe you don’t visit the toilet (washroom or lavatory). In my little
experience, I have not seen a human being who does not unleash feces. Try checking
the water closet before flashing your toilet.
You will see that those
waste (feces) lived in you. You treat your fellow human beings like trash
because of your pride. Because of your pride, people don’t want to identify
with you. Repent! Stop complaining and start complying!
The seed of association
If you analyze the
animals, you will see that they walk and live in groups. For instance, sheep
live together. Lions live together. Monkeys live with monkeys. Elephants live
together. Eagles live together.
Doves live together. Goats
live together. Even snakes live with snakes. Why do animals live together? It’s
because it helps them protect each other. Their unity helps them become
productive.
Lions don’t mingle with
crocodiles in the jungle. Monkeys don’t mingle with leopards. In homes, goats
don’t live with ducks. There is no way an eagle will act like a chicken. There
is no way a lion will act like a goat.
The little animals of the
same species learn from adults. In the same way, the person or group you
associate with determines your success or failure. The person you associate
with reveals your character and personality. Who do you share your vision with?
The person you associate with influences you consciously and unconsciously.
This is one reason you must mingle with people who know their purpose.
And he spake a parable
unto them, Can the blind lead the blind? shall they not both fall into the
ditch?
Luke
6:39 KJV
Our Savior and Lord
Christ Jesus stated that when a blind man leads the blind, they will fall into
a pit. Who do you listen to? Some friends are vision killers, while some are
vision promoters. Sharing your vision with someone (friend) who doesn’t want to
do anything positive with his life can endanger your destiny.
However, connecting with
visionary, God-fearing, selfless, and inspirational people (friends) uplifts
you. Who are your friends? What advice are they giving you? What are you
learning from them?
Are they adding value to
your life or taking value from you? Some friends can inspire you spiritually,
financially, psychologically, socially, morally, technologically,
intellectually, and physically.
You need these people to
rise to the top. However, there are some people (friends) who only want fun.
They have nothing purposeful to do with their lives. All they want is pleasure,
pleasure, and pleasure, and nothing else.
Such people come into
your life when things are moving well with you. However, when things begin to
go down, they depart from you. You don’t need these people. You need people who
care about your growth.
You need people who
desire your success. You need people who show in their actions that they want
you to succeed. You need people who will give you legal business ideas. You
need people who will encourage you to read the Holy Bible and pray.
You need people who will
inspire and motivate you even when you feel like giving up. Stop complaining
and start complying. You are failing because the people you call friends have
no plans for their lives. The people you call friends consciously and unconsciously
abuse you emotionally, financially, spiritually, socially, and mentally.
He that tilleth his land
shall have plenty of bread: but he that followeth after vain persons shall have
poverty enough.
Proverbs
28:19 KJV
The Holy Bible states
that following worthless people will make you poor. People who talk you down
anytime you bring up a good idea are enemies in disguise. It is not everybody
who smiles at you who loves you.
The truth is that the
enemy can act as a friend. You need the gift of discernment and wisdom to
detect true and false friends. Evil friends will corrupt your good manners (see
1 Corinthians 15:33).
Bad friends will
encourage you in your sin. They will push you away from the Holy Spirit. Bad
friends can destroy your assignment and end your life prematurely. Stop
complaining. Stop blaming others for your failures.
Check your circles. Some
people are not supposed to be your friends. See them as acquaintances. There
are some people you should only greet them when you cross their path. You don’t
have to allow them to come too close.
Create some gaps with
them. You do that for your protection. However, there are some people you must
allow to come close because you have discerned their vision and pure heart.
Sometimes, some friends may desire your success.
However, their
philosophies (actions, counsels, and ideologies) oppose God's plan for your
life. With these people, let them know your vision. If they genuinely love you,
they will follow your godly plans.
Stop complaining and
start complying. A time will come when you must distance yourself from specific
people and environments because of where you are going. These people might have
been your friends for a long time.
However, your assignment
will not permit them to move with you. Like Abraham and Lot. Abraham went with
Lot. Later, Lot created problems for Abraham. Know your vision. Know what God
has called you to do.
Associate with people who
agree with the plans of God for your life. Be decisive. However, don’t treat
people like trash (non-entities) because of your assignment. You may need them
along the way.
Disassociate with
respect. The people will catch up if they are meant to be with you. Who is your
friend? Stop complaining and start complying. Meditate on Second Corinthians
chapter six, verses fourteen to eighteen (2 Corinthians 6:14-18). Also,
meditate on these Holy Scriptures for more profound revelations.
He that tilleth his land
shall have plenty of bread: but he that followeth after vain persons shall have
poverty enough.
Proverbs
28:19 KJV
And he spake a parable
unto them, Can the blind lead the blind? shall they not both fall into the
ditch?
Luke
6:39 KJV
The root keys
Any time you see a mango
tree, what comes to your mind? Well, I may not know what comes to your mind.
However, when I see a mango tree, I see a mango seed. In the same way, when I
see a tree full of ripe oranges, I see an orange seed.
Someone planted the
orange and mango seeds, and nature grew them to produce fruits. If you want a
tree full of palm nuts, plant palm nut seeds. If you don’t want the oranges on
the tree, cut down the orange tree and uproot the roots.
Cutting down the leaves
of the orange tree will not change the fruits. You have to deal with the root
of the tree. So, what is my point here? The reason why you complain is because
of the seed you planted.
In my previous articles,
I emphasized the
seed of an erroneous mindset. Kindly read that
article for more profound revelations. We know that a child grows by what he
sees and hears. The child grows according to what his parents, guardians, and
the public teach him.
For instance, a child
born in a hostile family and environment is likely to become violent. In the
same way, a child born into a loving family and environment is likely to become
caring. Children who grow up in abusive homes and environments tend to be cruel
and inferior because of the seeds of hardship they receive in their infancy.
It takes the seed of the
Holy Spirit and radical transformation of the mind to change children who were
abused financially, socially, spiritually, psychologically, verbally, physically,
and emotionally.
Analyze most African
leaders (Africans in general). Colonization has enslaved us (I think I have
crossed that level). Colonization has taken a new form. Most African leaders
believe they cannot develop their economy without the aid of foreign powers
(Western powers).
Every year, you will see
African leaders begging international banks, foreign financial institutions, International
Monetary Funds, and Western powers for assistance. There is nothing wrong with
seeking help.
However, it becomes a
mental problem when we rely on aid and foreign powers for development. When we
think that we cannot grow our economy without the assistance of Western powers,
we remain enslaved people.
Most Africans oppose
their fellow Africans because of mental slavery (another form of witchcraft). This
is a faulty mindset (mental slavery). Until we change our minds, we will remain
in bondage.
We sold our forefathers
as slaves in the olden days. In this century, we have sold our minds. That’s
the greatest level of slavery! Being in bondage does not necessarily mean
living in closed prisons.
One of the deadliest
prisons is mental bondage (slavery) because a faulty mind lives in a trapped
hole. Like a pig, it delights in filthy places because that is its mindset. It
doesn’t matter where you place the pig.
As soon as the pig finds
a filthy place, it will bathe in it. Some animals even change when we train
them. Why can’t human beings? We must change the seed. Africans must renew
their mind.
We can unite. We can
trade within ourselves. We can unite as a continent (United States of Africa). We
can prosper without aid. We will process our natural resources. We will not make
our resources cheap to outsiders.
We will create our
plants. We will train people on how to transform these resources. We (Africans)
are the ones supposed to support foreigners. Running to foreign countries in
search of green pastures is mental slavery.
Africa has numerous
resources. We are selling our resources cheaply! We are not using our minds
because we have not changed the seed. Why should an African live in a foreign
country as a second-class citizen?
Meanwhile there are numerous
opportunities in Africa. When African leaders receive deliverance of the mind
and put things in order, the citizens will become productive, making the
economy prosperous. When we renew our minds and work together, we can build an
empire nobody can destroy.
We (Africans) perish
because of ignorance (meditate on Hosea 4:6). We are our own enemies. The enemy
outside cannot destroy until the enemy within opens the door. We (Africans) are
unconsciously living in mental slavery because we have not dealt with our faulty
mindset. I encourage you to download and read my free books. The books are free on
my blog and YouTube channel.
1. How Africa Can Unite and Prosper
2. How African and Poor Countries Can Develop.
Analyze serial killers
and criminals. Most of them came from abusive homes and hostile environments.
Like the orange and mango trees. It is the seed that determines the fruit. You
are like an orange tree.
There is a seed inside
you. You have roots. The seeds and roots are the counsel and advice you have
accepted. The information you receive in schools, at home, in videos, books, on
television, in music, in the environment, and online builds you.
You cannot change the
fruits until you deal with seeds and roots. You can cut down the leaves. You
can even prune the tree. However, that will not change the fruits. Deal with
the roots and the seeds.
The tree will change automatically. Stop complaining and start complying. The fruits are the result of the seeds. Deal with the root. The corrupt tree will change. I will continue in the next article. You can read my series of books on my blog for more profound revelations.
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