777 Uncommon Truths About Relationships - 1 (Deep Truths About Love)
The seed of a relationship
One unique virtue that
makes us human beings is our desires. We desire relationships because God
created us to relate. We serve a God that relates with His creation. God
created us to relate with Him.
Even animals and trees
relate to God. Domestic animals such as cats and dogs desire relationships.
Some people train wild animals to make them relational. I have watched videos
of people relating to lions, tigers, monkeys, and snakes!
If we can train animals
to relate with us, how about human beings? Naturally, we are social “animals”
because we act like them. Animals eat, drink, defecate, relate, fight, work,
procreate, sleep, and die.
That is how we also act. We eat, drink, defecate, relate, procreate, fight, work, sleep, and die. I encourage you to download and read my book, Perfect Wisdom, for more wisdom keys. The book is free on my blog and youtube channel.
A relationship takes
place when two people become one. A relationship is one of the key elements to
growth. Every normal vessel desires a relationship because it is in our system.
However, we must understand the principles, truths, and facts of relationships.
Relationships are in categories. Below are the lists.
Thirteen Categories of Relationship
1. Emotional
relationships
2. Financial
relationships
3. Purposeful
relationships
4. Social relationships
5. Spiritual
relationships
6. Technological
relationships
7. Divine relationship
8. Creational
relationships
9. Manipulative
relationships
10. Beneficial
relationships
11. Marital relationships
12. Sexual relationships
13. Religious
relationships
I will briefly define
these relationships for a better understanding. Freely download and read my
books on Wisdom and the Holy Spirit for
more profound revelations. The books are free on my blog and youtube
channel.
Summary of the thirteen types of relationships
1. Emotional
relationships: This relationship emanates from our soul.
It lasts for a short time because it is temporal. Women often exhibit this
relationship because of their emotional strength and weakness. This
relationship demands constant encouragement.
2. Financial
relationships: This relationship centers on money and
other temporal assets. The one demanding the relationship bases his commitment
on the partner’s provision. For instance, some people only relate if you
provide something.
3. Purposeful
relationship: This relationship rests on a solid
foundation. With this relationship, the people involved agree to move together
on a common ground. I know some Muslim men who are married to Christian women.
Most often, the man marries the woman for a purpose. It is the goal, vision,
and assignment that determines this relationship. Without the purpose, the relationship
will fail.
4. Social relationship:
This relationship rests on the moment's (occasional) activity. Most often, this
relationship lasts for a short period. For instance, a wedding, party, or
special ceremony creates this relationship. After the ceremony, the
relationship ends or fades away.
5. Spiritual
relationship: This relationship connects us to the
spiritual forces. With this relationship, we connect with the unseen forces.
Some people download secret information and data from the unseen realms through
this relationship. Some, too, become abnormal or die when they break the
relationship code.
6. Technological
relationship: With this relationship, we connect with
others in far and close places without meeting them physically. With the
introduction of the internet, electronic devices, and social media applications,
we can relate virtually. Because of the internet and technology, someone can be
in his room and connect with thousands and billions of people.
7. Divine relationship:
With this relationship, we become one with Christ Jesus, the Heavenly Father,
and the Holy Spirit. Divine relationship increases and sharpens the anointing
of the Holy Spirit in our lives.
With this relationship,
we receive uncommon power to do unnatural things because of the backing of the
Holy spiritual forces. I encourage you to download and read my books on the Holy Spirit and
the anointing
for more profound revelations. The books are free on my blog and youtube
channel.
8. Creational relationship:
With this relationship, we relate and connect with animals, trees, water bodies,
and other creations of God. Nature can connect with you if you know the keys.
Some people are so close
to their animals that they cannot do anything without them. That’s a creational
relationship. With this relationship, you get the support of nature if it is
from a pure heart.
9. Manipulative
relationship: This is one of the worst relationships
people enter into. With this relationship, people use dark psychology and mind
games to control their opponents. You will often experience emotional,
financial, social, spiritual, technological, psychological, physical, and
sexual abuse if you are in a manipulative relationship.
10. Beneficial
relationship: With this relationship, one enters it
because of what she can get. Most often, women engage in this relationship. Most
women usually look for what they can get from men before entering the
relationship.
Some men also do that.
However, women love this relationship. They often check the kind of work the men
do. Before entering the relationship, they investigate whether the man has a
car, house, and “precious” assets.
There is nothing wrong with
checking the partner’s background. However, if the motive is to suck (abuse)
the assets of the man or the woman before relating, it is a beneficial
relationship. Most often, there is no real love in this relationship. The deceptive
partner ends the relationship when the money or asset loses value.
11. Marital relationship:
Some people enter a relationship to get married. That is the primary purpose of
the relationship. They do not relate just for social gain. However, they relate
because they want to share responsibility. They relate because they want to
become husbands and wives. I will write more in this section, so keep reading.
12. Sexual relationship: Another
way of defining this relationship is a romantic relationship. This relationship
has a solid, lustful root. Most often, the people engaged relate to the outer
garment.
When I state outer
garment, I mean the physical appearance. Maybe the lady is beautiful while the
guy is handsome. With this relationship, it’s about pleasure (temporal body
gratification). The relationship has no solid foundational ground. They want to
“enjoy” and depart. Harlots, womanizers, carnal, and soulish people often
operate in this relationship.
13. Religious
relationship: With this relationship, people connect
because of faith. For instance, a Christian is likely to connect deeply with
another Christian because of their faith. A Muslim is likely to connect with
another Muslim because of their faith.
It doesn’t matter the vessel's
color, height, and status. It’s about the philosophy. I am relating with you
because you believe in what I believe. You worship what I worship. You follow
what I follow. That’s the foundation of the relationship. It’s not about your
country, tribe, or status. It’s about the faith we profess.
14. Tribalistic
relationship: Naturally, I don’t love to be tribalistic
when I enter foreign places because it limits me to a few people. Some people
only relate with people who are from their tribe.
For instance, some
Americans don’t relate to Africans and Asians. In the same way, some Africans
don’t relate to Americans and Asians. Some Asians, too, don’t relate to
Europeans, Africans, and Americans.
They relate with people
who come from their circles. This relationship has made some people racist and
narrow-minded. I know some Americans who love Africans, Asians, and Europeans.
I also know some Africans who love Americans, Asians, and Europeans.
However, some people only
relate to their tribe. Anyone outside their tribe is an enemy. It is good to
relate deeply with your tribe. However, don’t be a racist. Refusing to relate
with people who are not in your tribe can limit your blessings.
Without wasting much time, let me share some essential truths with you. I shared some of these truths in my book, Wisdom Keys subtitled Divine Keys to a Higher Life. Freely download and read the book on my blog and youtube channel. Know these truths before entering a relationship (specifically a marital relationship).
77 Truths You Must Know Before You Enter a Relationship
Are you compatible?
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Amos 3:3 KJV
The Holy Bible states
that two people can walk and live together if there is an agreement. Many
relationships end in pain and regret because they do not know this truth.
- Are you spiritually, psychologically, financially, socially, physically, and emotionally compatible?
- Do you share the same faith?
- Are you emotionally bonded to the person?
- Can you share your fears, pains, and insecurities with the person?
- Have you checked your temperaments and personalities?
- Do you agree generally?
- Do you share the same goal, vision, mission, and assignment?
- Can you communicate with each other for a long time without arguing?
- Are both of you medically fit?
Work out these truths before
entering a relationship because it can make or unmake you. I know we are
imperfect beings. However, try your best to align with the few questions listed
above before entering into a relationship.
You will prevent many
problems if you do your due diligence. You will enjoy your relationship if you work
out these questions. The relationship will last long if you know these truths. Many
couples would not have ended in divorce or separation if they had done their
due diligence.
Most often, people say
love is blind. Real love is not blind. Lust is blind. I encourage you to download
and read my book, What is Love, for a more profound revelation. The book is free on my blog
and youtube channel. Entering a relationship without adequate knowledge
can lead to disaster. Meditate on these Holy Scriptures for more profound
revelations.
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast
rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to
me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy
children.
Hosea 4:6 KJV
Therefore my people are gone into captivity, because they have
no knowledge: and their honourable men are famished, and their multitude
dried up with thirst.
Therefore hell hath enlarged herself, and opened her mouth without
measure: and their glory, and their multitude, and their pomp, and he that
rejoiceth, shall descend into it.
And the mean man shall be brought down, and the mighty man shall be
humbled, and the eyes of the lofty shall be humbled:
Isaiah 5:13 KJV
Destruction upon destruction is cried; for the whole land is spoiled:
suddenly are my tents spoiled, and my curtains in a moment.
How long shall I see the standard, and hear the sound of the
trumpet?
For my people is foolish, they have not known me; they are
sottish children, and they have none understanding: they are wise to do
evil, but to do good they have no knowledge.
Jeremiah 4:20-22 KJV
I encourage you to
download and read my book, 777 Uncommon Benefits of Reading Books, for more profound revelations. The
book is free on my blog and youtube channel. Ignorance is an
invisible illness. It destroys without symptoms. Acquire and pursue knowledge
if you want to last in a relationship.
Upbringing differences
Have you checked the growth
differences? How you were raised as a child is different from your partner's
upbringing, and how you see things can differ from how your partner sees things
because of how each of you was raised.
Do your due diligence
before engaging because how the person was raised affects the relationship. Suppose
your partner came from a home where money was not a problem, and you came from
a home where money was a challenge.
In that case, you will
likely encounter financial challenges because your partner will use money
anyhow, but you will prefer that the money be spent wisely. Check the
upbringing before engaging to avoid unnecessary conflict.
You can engage your
partner to get some information about her upbringing. The person can share or tell
you how she was raised. Knowing these truths will enhance the relationship. You
will be surprised that your partner acts a certain way because of how the
parents, guardians, and community raised him. If you know this truth, you will
know how to relate with your partner.
The foundational key
Have you analyzed the
foundation? When I state foundation, I mean the purpose. Some people enter
relationships with their selfish interests. Know why someone wants to relate
with you? Do you know your assignment?
Have you identified your
partner's assignment? You will be surprised to know that some people enter into
a relationship just for sex. Apart from sex, nothing else! If you are engaging
someone whose mindset is to have sex in a relationship, you are in big trouble.
Although sex is part of the marital relationship, that should not be the foundation (entry point). What will you do after the sexual act? A “pleasure” for five minutes. After the “pleasure,” what’s next?
- What if the partner becomes impotent?
- What if the partner gets a fatal accident?
- What if a medical problem sets in?
Some people, too, enter
relationships because they want to have children. Aside from children, nothing
else! What do you think such people will do when they don't get children? Even if they get children, their focus will be the Children, not on the growth of the relationship. Such a relationship
will not last.
Some people, too, enter
into a relationship because of personal gain. They want to relate because of
what they can get. If someone wants to engage you because of what she can get
from you, what will the person do if you lose your assets?
Some people too enter
relationships because everybody is married. Such people have no purpose for a relationship.
They want to marry because their friends and family are marrying. Most often,
they don’t know why they are marrying.
Such relationships do not
stand in the long run. Some people, too, enter a relationship because they want
to have fun. This is one of the silliest things to do. Maybe the person read a
fictional book and found that marriage is an arena of fun.
I don’t disregard fun
because it is part of life; however, it is not a solid foundation for a long-lasting
relationship. If the primary reason to enter a relationship is to have fun, such
a relationship will fail in the long run.
At the initial stage, the
relationship will look great. However, as time passes, the partners will be
tired of themselves. They will become so familiar that the fantasy of fun will
vanish. Taking care of the children, business, family issues, and other vital
responsibilities will distract someone with a fun mindset, leading to conflict.
Some people, too, enter
relationships because of the pressure from family and friends. If you are
entering a relationship because of pressure, stand your ground. Calm your
family and friends wisely.
Let them know it’s your
life. You don’t want to make hasty decisions. It is about your future. A relationship
is a long journey. Making the wrong move can cost you. If you don’t want to end
in divorce, don’t allow the pressure from family and “friends” to force you to
make a decision that will cost you.
Some people too enter
relationships because of their age. Maybe they are growing “old.” I advise that
you shouldn’t rush into a relationship because of age. However, don’t keep too
long. Age is a number.
Someone can be twenty
years old yet mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and socially mature. Someone,
too, can be forty years yet the person is immature emotionally, mentally,
spiritually, socially, and physically.
Age is just a number;
don’t run into a dark pit because your age is rising. Mature internally and
externally because a long-lasting and fruitful relationship demands maturity.
Some people, too, enter relationships to prove a point.
Maybe some friends,
enemies, and family members are teasing them, so they want to prove a point
that they are relevant and marriageable. That’s manipulation and witchcraft. I
don’t do things to prove a point.
I do things because it is
an assignment. I will not marry prematurely to prove a point. I will marry rightly.
Think twice before entering a relationship because it has good and bad sides. Relationships
can significantly boost your health, social, and financial status if you enter correctly
and at the appointed time.
There is time for
everything. Don’t enter a relationship because you are lonely. Your partner
will not be there forever. That partner has his limitations. He needs the Holy
Spirit to fill his empty gaps.
The partner is not your Holy Spirit. Build yourself emotionally, financially, socially, mentally, technologically, and physically in your singlehood stage to avoid disaster. Relationships can protect you internally and externally. However, engage the right way and at the appointed time. This is the introduction. I will continue in the next article. Kindly share the link to this article to save a life. Blessings!
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