777 Powerful Truths Within Relationships [Deep Secrets About Love] - 2
The discipline of writing
Sitting before the laptop
to write this article, I glanced through the foundations. When I state
foundation, I mean the raw ideas and structures. While analyzing the foundation,
I concluded it would be a long article!
However, I will sacrifice
to write these articles. Thousands of ideas are yet to be transformed into
books and articles. I will write them with the help of the Holy Spirit and
discipline (hard work). Writing books and articles demand sacrifice, discipline,
and persistence.
Some people think it’s
easy to write. Well, the truth is that writing and editing books and articles
takes much effort. I must sacrifice most of my ministry work and leisure time to
write. I have heard people using artificial intelligence to write books and
articles.
I do not use those robots
to write. How can we trust an article or a book from a robot? Some of their
information might be true. However, I encourage you to read books and articles real
human beings write.
I encourage you to
download and read my books, How to Write and Publish Books and How I Wrote
Over 40 Books and Over 350 Articles Within 3 Years, if you want to
write books and articles.
The principles in those
books are what I use to write. They are proven principles that work. The audio
version is on youtube and other online stores. Kindly download and read them
for more wisdom keys. I felt that sharing this information because some people want
to know how to write.
Do not learn to write
from people who have not written books or articles. Learn from real people who
have done it. If you want to be a real writer, don’t use artificial
intelligence machines (robots in the cloud) to write books and articles. Artificial
intelligence machines or robots can give you ideas.
However, their ideas are
random. You need real ideas from real human beings. In my previous article,
I wrote a short introduction about relationships. This article will be
the second introduction because the ideas on this topic are too much. It may
take months to complete this topic.
Writing articles consumes
time and energy. However, writing a book takes more time, energy, and funds. I
thought of writing on a different topic to get the full time to develop all the
ideas for this topic into a book.
However, I will break the
ideas into a series of articles and develop them weekly (if only I get the time).
Getting ideas to write a book can be easy if God has called you to write.
However, sitting before your electronic device to type, build, and edit ideas
is the challenge.
As stated, it takes
discipline, sacrifice, and persistence to write books and articles. If you are
called to write, you will receive the grace to write. However, you are going
nowhere as a writer without sacrifice, discipline, and persistence.
The seed of a relationship
Back to the article, 777
Powerful Truth Within a Relationship. A relationship is part of life. Nature
expresses real relationship. Analyze animals. You will see that they relate
closely and genuinely.
Domestic animals, such as
dogs, move in groups. Elephants, fishes, birds, monkeys, crows, cows, and sheep
move in groups. Cats relate with fellow cats. Lions relate with fellow lions. Birds
in the air, wild animals in the bush, animals in the sea, and animals on land relate.
You can watch wildlife videos
of specific animals on youtube and other websites. You can travel to African
countries with wild animals and tourist zones to watch animals. You will
realize that animals do everything together.
They know how to defend when
an enemy enters their territory. Animals know how to protect, feed, and shelter
each other. Animals are wise. They know who to engage and who to disengage.
They know their enemies and friends. There are millions, if possible, billions
of species of animals in the world.
However, each knows whom
to relate to and whom to disassociate with. You don’t have to tell a cat not to
relate to a snake. The cat knows that snakes are dangerous animals. In the same
way, a deer will not associate with lions because it knows the dangers.
Animals understand the
principles of a relationship. As humans, we must know the principles of
relationships. We must not ignore the power of relationships because they play
a vital role in our lives.
We need each other
because we are imperfect and incomplete. Even God Almighty needs a relationship.
The Heavenly Father cannot live without the Holy Spirit and Christ Jesus.
Neither can the Holy Spirit live without Christ Jesus and the Heavenly Father.
The Trinity needs each
other. God created us to relate with Him and with His creation. Relationships are
one of the most important truths we must uphold if we want to grow and last for
a long time.
However, we must understand that every good (genuine) currency has a fake currency (relationship). When I state currency, I mean a relationship can be diabolic when we lack certain truths. Do you know that some people have lost their lives because of a toxic relationship?
- Some people are in psychiatric hospitals and clinics because of a bad relationship.
- Some people are in prison because of fake relationships.
- Some people, too, have lost trust in humankind because of bad relationships.
On the other hand, some
people have become great because of good relationships. Some people have
entered great places because of relationships. Some people have gained uncommon
blessings and treasures because of a good relationship.
This is one reason I want
to share these truths with you. A relationship has its good and ugly side. You
must know the truth about relationships to avoid becoming a victim. In the book
of Genesis, God Almighty gave a profound truth about marital relationships.
Mysteries about a marital relationship
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…a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:
and they shall be one flesh.
Genesis 2:24 KJV
The King of Kings and Lord of Lords declared that a man shall separate
from his parents and stick to his wife, and they shall be one flesh. I want to dissect
this mystery so you can understand the principles and power of a relationship.
God stated that a man. Note the word carefully. God did not state that the
boy would leave his father and mother. The first requirement is a man. A man is
physically, mentally, socially, spiritually, financially, and physically mature.
This means it takes a man to enter a marital relationship. The requirement of
God does not permit a boy to enter a relationship because he is not internally
and externally mature. Secondly, God stated that the man should depart from his
parents.
I hope you get a clear picture. The first qualification is that you
must be a man. The second qualification is that you must be independent of your
parents. As far as you live with your parents or with someone who caters to
your needs and wants, you are not a man.
A man must be able to cater for himself. A man must be able to supply
his needs and wants without the assistance of anyone. A man must be able to
live without the aid of his parents, siblings, friends, and other family
members.
A man who stays with his parents is not qualified to enter into a
relationship because he does not have the resources to cater for a wife. A “man”
who lives with the assistance of his parents, guardians, and friends cannot
enter into a relationship because he is too immature to cater for the wife.
How can someone who cannot supply his needs and wants supply another
person's needs and wants? It takes someone who can care for himself to care for another
person. Any male who lives with his parents is a boy.
Any male who lives with the assistance of his parents, guardians,
friends, and family members is a boy. To get me right, I am not stating that a man
should not get assistance from parents and friends.
Sometimes, a man may need encouragement and assistance from parents and
friends. It may be a natural disaster or temporal assistance. However, it shouldn’t
be a permanent or continuous assistance.
The wife needs the total focus of her husband. The parents and friends should
not share the man’s independence and focus with the wife. The wife needs that
attention. This is one reason God stated that man must be independent of his parents.
Most often, children have a solid emotional bond with their parents. If
you don’t break or limit that emotional bond with your parents and you enter a
relationship, it will cause trouble. This is one reason God stated that man must
be independent of his parents.
You must be independent of extended family and friends. When a man
enters a marital relationship, he has created a new family. That family
(children and wife) needs the attention of the man.
Divided attention will create conflicts and confusion. As stated in
Genesis chapter two, verse twenty-four, the third stage of a relationship is
that the man shall cleave to his wife. Don't enter a relationship if you are
not ready to stick closer to your wife.
Naturally, women tend to be emotional beings. They need you (the man). A
wife needs the man (the husband) to feel complete. Wives need men to encourage
them. Women (wives) need men to complete their emotional strength.
They need men to assist them financially, emotionally, spiritually, socially,
psychologically, and physically. How can you complete the woman if you are not
matured internally and externally? The fourth requirement for a marital relationship
is a fleshly bond.
This is when sexual acts enter. God created sex for a man and his wife.
Sex is not for a man and a woman. Sex is not for a male and a female. Sex is not
for a boy and a girl. Sex is not for a man and an animal.
Sex is not for a woman and an animal. Sex is not for a man or toy. Sex
is not for a woman is a toy. Sex is not for a man and another man. Sex is not for
a boy and another boy. Sex is not for a woman and another woman.
Sex is for a man and his wife. Sex creates emotional, spiritual, and physical
bonds. When you join (sexual intercourse) with a woman, you become one. You
create a soul tie. When you join with your wife, all your senses connect with
her.
You create a covenant with your wife when you join. Observe married
couples who have lived for a long time. You will realize that they begin to
resemble each other. As the years increase, they begin to think alike. They start
to grow and die together. That is how the connection works. If you are not
ready to join, you are unprepared for a marital relationship.
The peril of a relationship
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As stated at the beginning of the article, some people enter into a
relationship and end badly. Let me share some important truths about
relationships so you will not become a victim. Knowing these truths will enhance
your relationship skills.
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling
woman in a wide house.
Proverbs 21:9 KJV
This is one of the best advice
from the Holy Bible. These are words from Solomon, one of the wisest kings in
Israel. Solomon was the son of king David. This man had great wealth.
According to the Holy Bible,
Solomon had seven hundred wives and three hundred second-hand wives (see 1
Kings 11:3). This should tell you that Solomon had experience with women. He
knew everything about women.
The Holy Bible stated
that he was wise. He received wisdom, understanding, and great knowledge from
God. However, he failed in his old age because of his many wives. His wisdom remained
with him till he died.
Solomon stated that it is
better to dwell in an incomplete house full of mosquitoes and cockroaches than
to live with a contentious woman. I think Solomon suffered a lot from the women
he chose as wives.
Solomon went through
emotional, mental, spiritual, sexual, financial, social, and physical abuse
because of his many wives. He had money but no peace of mind because of the wives
surrounding him.
Solomon wrote from his experience.
If Solomon states that it is better to be single and live in a forsaken place
where rain will beat you than to live with a quarrelsome wife, why are you entering
into a relationship with a contentious woman?
I firmly believe Solomon
suffered a lot. Solomon desired to forsake the palace and live in the
wilderness because of the contentious women surrounding him. The women gave
Solomon many problems.
Solomon had to settle cases
every day because of the wives surrounding him. The man suffered. He became
confused to the extent that he followed false gods. This should tell you the
power of contentious women!
Women who love to quarrel
will not give you peace. They will abuse you emotionally, verbally, and
mentally. Why don’t you stay in your singlehood and enjoy your peace of mind rather
than stay with an aggressive woman who sees quarreling as a contest?
It is better to
dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
Proverbs 21:19 KJV
Solomon further states
that it is better to live with wild animals in the bush than with a quarrelsome,
troublemaker, sorrowful, and angry woman. I will choose to be single and live
in peace than to live with a woman who causes trouble.
Entering a relationship
with a woman who will not give you peace will limit your potential, power, and
prosperity. You will be fighting unnecessarily. Your neighbors will tag you as
an irresponsible and useless man if you enter a relationship with a contentious
woman.
It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling
woman and in a wide house.
Proverbs 25:24 KJV
Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house
full of sacrifices with strife.
Proverbs 17:1 KJV
It is better to be single
and enjoy your bread than to enter a relationship that will bring conflicts,
confusion, and calamity. Many couples are living in pain because they rush into
relationships. They wish they had not entered.
However, it is too late. Some
couples have to endure or believe the Holy Spirit for a change. Some, too,
cannot take it anymore, so they divorce. Have you thought about the emotional
scar, public ridicule, shame, and loss in divorce?
It is better to live
peacefully in “poverty” than to enter a relationship that will generate continuous
pain. Sometimes, some “men” think that the woman will change when they marry
the woman. Some women, too, believe that when they marry a man, he will change.
Are you the Holy Spirit?
It takes the Holy Spirit and the Holy Bible to change a person. You better
apply knowledge! It is better to eat your loaf of bread peacefully than to
enter a relationship that will generate misfortunes, witchcraft, and sorrow.
The second peril of a relationship
Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt
not go:
Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV
A relationship involves
friendship. There is no way you will relate with someone whom you cannot
befriend. Relationships without friendship will not last. The Holy Bible states
that we should not associate with angry people.
Some people are so passionate
and emotional that they take everything personally. Something that shouldn’t irritate
them triggers a hostile action. Entering into a relationship with an angry
person is dangerous because you will become like that vessel.
The emotional bond with
the angry person will make you an angry vessel. An angry person can harm you unexpectedly
because of his uncontrolled emotions. Angry people cannot control their
emotions.
They allow their emotions
to control them. Living with such people is suicidal and unhealthy because they
can harm you unexpectedly. As stated, some people are in their graves because
of a relationship.
Entering a relationship
with a furious person puts your life at great risk. It is said that when
someone is angry, his senses are unproductive. An angry person does not consider.
He acts by what he feels.
If he feels like hurting
you with a weapon in his provoked state, he will do it. People are suffering at
the hands of angry people because of a relationship. A man who easily negatively
exhibits his anger is a dangerous person to be with.
Do not enter into a
relationship with such a person because you are entering a danger zone. You
will become an angry vessel when you enter a relationship with an angry and furious
person.
The angry man will use
his anger to dominate and manipulate you. That’s another level of witchcraft!
You will live in bondage all the days of your life if you enter a relationship
with an angry man (it can be a woman as well). Because of the soul ties, you
will think like him, act like him, and talk like that angry person.
An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in
transgression.
Proverbs 29:22 KJV
Entering a relationship
with an angry man (or woman) will create crisis, conflicts, and confusion in
the house. Furious people are dangerous people. They can hurt without remorse
and repentance.
Angry people enjoy pain
because that is their nature. Angry people are violent people who take no risk
when provoked. They can destroy without a second thought when provoked. They don’t
think before acting when provoked.
Furious people are similar to wild animals. Are you ready to endure pain in the relationship? The choice is yours. Anger can also be a great virtue if channeled rightly. I encourage you to read my articles,
How to live in wisdom for
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The third peril of a relationship
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a
woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Proverbs 31:30 KJV
I am single and ready to
mingle (are you the one?). I have been in relationships. By God’s grace,
I have read the minds of ladies in my past relationships. I have also had
discussions with women.
Some are divorced,
married, and single. So, the wisdom keys I am sharing are experiential. Above
all, they are biblical and practical. Many people are single because they
conclude on their outward appearance.
For instance, most women
look out for men who have everything. They want men who can buy them everything.
Some women, too, are greedy, proud, and ignorant. They don’t want to settle down
for marriage.
They want “men” who can
deceive them. Most women don’t want honest and responsible men. Only a few wise
women look out for honest and responsible men. Most women look out for fake men
to enter relationships.
They want to move in with
the men, who have much cash, a house, a car, and other temporal assets. Most women
want to see men wearing the finest and most expensive clothes and shoes before
entering a relationship.
Most women want men who
can provide for their wants. Real women first look for men who can provide for their
needs. Needs are basic things we cannot do without. For instance, basic needs
include food, water, a house to live in, and clothes.
Wants are big houses like
mansions, cars, expensive phones, and the rest (they know it). Real women don’t
focus on their wants before entering a relationship because that is secondary. Real women look out for their
basic needs before entering a relationship.
However, fake and
ignorant women look out for their wants before entering a relationship. This is one reason most women are single,
abused, and divorced. Some men enter a relationship because of the woman’s
beauty. They look at the woman’s physical attraction.
I don’t want to mention
the things ignorant men look out for in women before entering a relationship in
this article. However, they know what I mean. I was once passing by two guys
near a tertiary institution in Koforidua.
Observing their age, they
were in the range of twenty and twenty-five. One of them said, as for me, I
will date a woman who has beautiful toes. The other said I love women with attractive
shapes.
The guy was describing
the details of the woman. They were all discussing the physical structures of
the women they wanted to engage. What a tragedy! Are you going to marry the toes
and the shapes of the women?
Some men focus on the two
round balls behind and in front of the women. They check the hair, face,
complexion, height, and unnecessary things. Real men don’t focus on those
things. They look at the inner beauty.
Some women check the
height, color, and tribe of the person. Those are bonuses. They may be necessary.
However, that is not the focus. Entering a relationship because of the outward
appearance can be deceptive.
First, look inward before
considering the outward appearance. The Holy Bible states that beauty is vain
(see Proverbs 31:30). If you want to enter a relationship because the man is
handsome and tall, that’s vain.
If you enter a
relationship because the woman is beautiful, that’s vain. Beauty, handsomeness,
six-pack, and body shape are bonus! First, check their inner qualities because
beauty is vain. That is what the Holy Bible states.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a
woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Proverbs 31:30 KJV
Somebody can be beautiful,
handsome, tall, and have all the physical shape. However, that person does not
have inner beauty. It is the inner beauty that controls the outer garment. If
the mindset and values of the person are erroneous, it will affect the relationship.
Like a pig, it doesn’t matter
how clean it looks. The pig will enter a filthy place when it finds one. That
is how beauty works. Physical attraction is good. However, that shouldn’t be
the foundation for a relationship.
Many beautiful women and
handsome men are corrupt and defiled inwardly. The physical attraction may
cover you publicly. However, you will suffer privately if you enter a relationship. If you are not lucky
and the person is heavily corrupt and defiled, you will experience public shame
and abuse.
Haven’t you seen beautiful
people engaged in accidents? What if that beautiful and handsome person enters
a fatal accident? Beautiful women and handsome men have become disfigured
because of fatal accidents.
It is good to marry a
beautiful and handsome person. However, beauty is vain because the Holy Bible
says it is vain. That’s the truth of life. Physical beauty is excellent.
However, what is the use of physical beauty if it is defiled and corrupt
inwardly?
Physical possession can
be a great booster to a marital and romantic relationship. However, that should
not be the foundation. Those are secondary criteria to consider when entering a
relationship.
If the person has inner
beauty and still possesses outward beauty, that’s a great blessing! I know a few
beautiful women who have moral integrity and godly character. I also know some "ugly" women who are proud, greedy, selfish, and ignorant.
However, most beautiful
women are proud, greedy, ignorant, and defiled vessels looking for fake people to
relate with. The Holy Bible states that beauty is vain (see Proverbs 31:30). We
need a woman who reveres God.
Suppose that reverential woman
is beautiful, great! The beauty is a bonus. The real thing is the fear of God.
Someone who fears God has moral integrity and godly character. Such a vessel
will not cause much trouble in a relationship.
However, beauty with a
bad character is dangerous. Why do you think most physically beautiful women
are not married? Why do you think some women pass their flower age without
marriage?
It’s because of their
faulty mindset and corrupt values. Entering a relationship with a beautiful
beast and furious handsome man is suicidal. Beauty is vain, says the wise man
(king Solomon). Remember, Solomon was one of the wealthiest men that ever lived.
He had seven
hundred wives and three hundred concubines. Solomon wrote from experience. He saw
that beauty was vain. He married many beautiful women who had bad character and
suffered the consequences.
Solomon doesn’t want you
to repeat the same mistake. No woman is ugly. It’s the inner beauty that
counts. You have met a treasure if she has physical beauty and godly character.
However, don’t be led astray just by the physical appearance.
Don’t enter an invisible
prison because of the outward appearance; it is not all that glitter that is
gold. A grave can have a beautiful appearance. However, looking at what is
inside the beautiful grave, you will notice it’s smelly and poisonous.
It doesn’t matter how
calm a poisonous snake appears. It can kill. As far as it is poisonous, don’t relate
to it because it can kill you. Do you know the number of people who died
prematurely because of a toxic relationship?
They allow the veil of vainness
(physical attraction) to cover their souls. Beauty is vain when it has no inner
moral integrity. We don’t give precious things to dogs because they will
trample on them.
You are too precious to surrender
your life to an empty vessel. Beauty is just a container. Just like our mind controls
almost every organ of our bodies, a damaged mind with a beautiful covering is untrustworthy.
Body shapes, six packs,
big balls, height, color, temporary assets, and physical structures are
secondary. First, go for inner beauty. If the person passes the first test, you
can consider the secondary beauty.
However, let the inner
beauty be the focus. If the person can provide the basic needs, enter the
relationship. Both of you can work to create the wants. Remember, beauty is
vain. It’s just a covering.
Give it time. You will
see the real vessel, just like a pregnant woman. She can hide her pregnancy.
However, time will reveal the pregnancy. She may look beautiful. He may look handsome
with all the six-pack.
She may have the shapes and
whatever. However, don’t be deceived. Beauty is temporary. Time will conclude
the emptiness of the beauty. Go for the real thing (inner beauty). I couldn’t finish
the second introduction. However, I will end it here. I will continue the
second introduction in the next article. The link to the first article is here.
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