777 Special Truth About Relationships [Deep Revelation About Love] – 5
The wisdom of relationship
Creating and managing a relationship
is one of our core duties because we cannot go far without it. I have realized
that sustaining a relationship takes commitment, time, trust, resources,
discipline, knowledge, and prayer.
Two smart people cannot
live peacefully in a relationship because one must sometimes act like a “fool”
to sustain it. This is what I have seen in my past relationships. Most women
enter relationships for their selfish interests.
I have realized that relationships
often break if partners think they can outsmart each other. Sometimes, you must
act like a “fool” to make the relationship work. Trying to be smart always will
weaken the relationship (meditate on Ecclesiastes 7:16, 1 Corinthians 3:18,20).
Acting as if you are the
only wise person (always right) can destroy relationships. Apply wisdom before
the relationship fails. In our century, most women are occupying vital
leadership positions.
Most women have attained
formal educational certificates. Some, too, can work to provide their basic
needs and wants. Because most women are educated and can provide for their
needs and wants, they often become proud.
After all, I can feed
myself, they whisper in their heads. I can travel, buy a car, and do what a man
can do for me. Because of these advantages, most women don’t want to enter a
relationship. Those who try to enter a relationship don’t often want to submit.
It’s only the few wise ones who understand the principles of relationships.
In the late centuries,
most wives were uneducated. It was the husbands who provided. Most wives
submitted because the husbands supplied the basic needs and wants. However,
things have changed in our time.
Some wives have taken the
leadership position of husbands because of their educational status. Because of
that, marriage keeps breaking. As stated, a marital relationship will not last
if one is not submissive.
According to the Holy
Bible, God created the wife to assist the husband (meditate on Genesis 2:18-24).
The wife is supposed to be a helper or assistant to the husband. However,
education has made some wives premature leaders in the home.
Some women, too, have
become proud because of their status. Most wives are unwilling to submit
because they can provide what the husband can. Let me use this analogy to help
wives understand the principle of relationship.
Have you ever seen two
people controlling the steering of a car? Every car needs one driver. One driver
controls the car's steering because that is how the manufacturer made it. Two
people controlling a moving vehicle will crash.
There are times when the
driver gets tired. In this case, the assistant driver can move the car. That is
how God has made marriage. One driver at a time. One controls while the other
assists. The husband is the main driver.
The wife is the assistant
driver. Although technology has made self-driving cars, two people cannot
control the steering simultaneously. One has to drive. Even in an airplane, one
pilot controls the plane.
The other pilot assists
when the main pilot becomes tired. There might be autopilot. However, the
principle of one pilot at a time remains unchanged—talk of bicycles,
motorbikes, ships, and trains, one person drives them.
That is how God has made
a marital relationship—one leads while the other assists. The husband is the
head, while the wife is the helper (assistant). Analyze public and private
organizations. It’s the manager and assistant manager, not the two managers.
We have a president and
an assistant president. Two heads cannot lead. We need one head. Analyze your
body. You have two hands, two legs, and two ears. However, you have one head.
Any human being with two heads is abnormal.
God gave every man one
head because of focus. That is how the principle of leadership works. A
relationship needs focus. Two people leading at the same time causes confusion,
and without the boss, the helper becomes irrelevant.
God made the woman for
the man. In other words, without the man, the woman is insignificant. For
instance, without electronic devices, the internet will be nothing. Computers
make the internet relevant.
The internet will be
nothing without the electronic device. Without energy (light or electricity),
electronic devices will be nothing. The energy makes the electronic device relevant.
In the same way, men make women relevant.
Without men, women have
no meaning. God would not have made the women if He did not create men. Therefore,
the woman reading this article, humble yourself. The men, too, learn to care
for the women because God made them because of us.
Women are precious treasures.
You need special knowledge to walk and live with them. I will write more on
this in the next article. It’s an ancient and divine secret. Wives find their
purpose in their husbands.
Most women earnestly need
men with all their hearts. However, the women pretend they don’t need a man (a
husband). Most women of our time are single because of pride. Most of them
don’t enter a relationship with the right mindset.
I have had discussions
with several women. Most of them have children. Some, too, act as if they are
in a relationship. However, they are single. Those with children are often
divorced or separated.
The separated and
divorced women are not older. Most of them are in their early thirties and late
twenties. I often asked the ladies with children where the father of their children was. Most reply that they are no longer with the children’s father.
The more I interrogate
them, the more I find out they need a man. Some women speak lies. Others, too,
are selfish and proud. One thing I have seen about relationships is that it
takes humble people to make it work.
Two proud people cannot
stay long in a relationship. If you are a woman reading this article, apply
knowledge because I have seen many single women who have passed their flower
age. Flower age means they are above thirty years old.
Most of the women who
passed their flower age in their twenties had the chance to meet potential men
proposing. However, these women's ignorance, pride, and selfish interest made
them miss the right partner.
I have encountered
beautiful women at prayer centers praying for husbands. However, most of these women
often ignore the potential men that come their way after the prayers. I know
most women want men who can take care of them.
If you are a woman
reading this article, pick the lessons. I am a man. I know what most men think.
Real men rarely show off. Responsible men are sincere and straight to the point.
Follow the series of this article to the end.
If you have not read the
previous article, I encourage you to read them. I will show you how to connect
with the “right” partner. Read the previous articles and follow the upcoming
articles. Remember me in your prayers as well.
I know you want security.
You want a man who can provide. You want a man who will make you happy. I know
you want a man who can buy you whatever you want. You want a happy home. After
all, every normal woman wants a happy life!
However, life is a
mystery. How you expect things may not work as you expected. If you read the
history of most successful men, you will realize that most began in an
embarrassing way. Most of the successful men you admire started with nothing.
However, their
persistence, hard work, and inner power made them valuable. I know some
ministers of God who started with nothing. However, the women that came their
way did not look at the present condition.
The men had nothing.
However, the women saw the future of the men who had nothing. The women accepted the
marriage proposal. The women believed in the men and supported them with what
they had.
Today, the couples have
become successful. Because the women saw the future of the men, they accepted
the marriage proposal. The man who had nothing and the visionary woman worked
hard and smart.
Today, they are enjoying.
I know you don’t want to struggle as a woman in marriage. I know you don’t want
to marry a man who cannot provide for you. Maybe you are afraid that the man
cannot care for the future children if you accept the marriage proposal.
Great for thinking that
way! You want a secure family! You are wise for thinking that way! However,
there is a question mark (meditate on Proverbs 14:12). You cannot always be
right. Maybe your family members and friends have advised you not to accept the
man's marriage proposal because he is financially weak.
However, have you
considered the other strengths of the man? Maybe the man is spiritually,
socially, mentally, technologically, and physically strong. Perhaps the man is
hardworking. Maybe the man is faithful. He is a visionary.
The man knows where he is
going. Don’t be limited by the temporal financial weakness because it is just a
matter of time. The man may be weak financially. However, he has a bright
future. I know money is essential.
Let me be precise. Money
is necessary. We use the money to buy food, water, land, and houses and provide
basic needs and wants. The man may not have the financial strength in his
current state.
However, you (the woman)
also have something. That something may not necessarily be money. Having money
is a bonus! You might have emotional, social, business, mental, spiritual, and
physical strength.
Use those strengths to
complete the man! You are entering the relationship as a helper (meditate on Genesis
2:18). You (the woman) will not be needed if the man is complete (meditate on
Genesis 2:20-25).
Use your strength to
cover the man’s weakness. However, don’t take the responsibility of the Holy
Spirit. Apply wisdom (meditate on Romans 8:26). The man will also use his
strength to cover your weakness.
If you are looking for a
complete man, you must wait forever. The same applies to men. You will not find
a complete woman. Relationship fills the empty gap. We are incomplete. We need
each other to complete ourselves (meditate on Genesis 2:18-24).
It is said that women
need men who are above them. Above them means women often need men who are
spiritually, emotionally, financially, socially, mentally, and physically stronger
than them.
However, you will not
find a complete man. You are entering the relationship to complete with the man,
not to compete with the man. The Holy Spirit works in the relationship to build
what you cannot build (meditate on Romans 8:26).
Don’t trade the potential
prosperous partner with a temporal seed. Do you know the number of women who
have missed potential husbands because they did not see the future of the men?
They only saw the present condition of the men and ignored the relationship.
Some men, too, have lost
precious assets (potential wives) because of ignorance. Apply wisdom! Don’t let
the jealousies and negative talks of “friends” and family destroy the
relationship. See with the eyes of your heart.
I strongly believe Pastor
Mensah Otabil, Pastor Williams F. Kumuyi, Pastor Dag Heward Mills, Prophet
Opoku Sarkodie, President Nana Akuffo Addo, Archbishop Duncan Nicholas
Williams, President Donald Trump, Bishop David Oyedepo, President John Mahama, Elon
Musk, and several shinning stars proposed to women who rejected them.
At that time, they were
not shining stars. The women who received the marriage proposal rejected these
men because they were nothing at that stage. However, these men have become leaders.
The women who rejected
them when they were nothing would regret it. However, the women who accepted
them in the vulnerable stage will enjoy. To the women reading this article, see
the future of the men.
To the men, too, see the
future of the women. However, I will emphasize women because they are the problem.
I know you want to marry a high-ranking man. The man may be low now. However,
he is a high-ranking man in the future.
Don’t allow the mockery
of ignorant people to destroy your glory. I have received much rejection from
women. It's painful to accept rejection from women when you propose. Men often have
an ego problem.
Because of our ego, we
often feel rejected and depressed when women reject our proposal. However, don’t
feel rejected. It might be that the woman is not the right partner. Sometimes, it can
be a spiritual issue.
I often see women
admiring me when I’m ministering. However, they want men who have everything. Men
of value know who they are. They are not disturbed when the women reject their
proposal.
Men of honor know their
value, so they don’t allow the insecurities and ignorance of people to break
their focus. If you are a man reading this article, don’t become depressed when
you receive a series of rejections.
It has happened to me
several times. However, I keep pressing. It’s part of life. The day you meet
the chosen one, she will flow. The one meant for you will see your future. The right
partner will not make it hard for you.
I know what I am writing about.
You will know when you meet the right partner. The right partner may not have everything.
However, he has something you need. The right partner will compliment you.
Apply wisdom. Don’t enter
the relationship with selfish interest. Doing that will destroy the
relationship. Couples who have stayed in a relationship for a long time know
how to cover each other’s weaknesses.
They work out their
weakness and cover each other with their strength. If you enter a relationship
with a selfish interest, conclude that that relationship will not last. In the
previous article, I gave some foundational keys to why people enter a relationship.
I will list some of them in
this article and throw a little light on them. Knowing these truths will help
you avoid manipulative relationships. You will know whether you are in the
right or wrong relationship.
Twenty reasons people enter a relationship
1. Because of age
As stated, some people
enter a relationship because of age. They believe they are growing old, so they
do anything to enter a relationship. I always say that age is a number.
Maturity begins with your mindset.
Someone can be thirty
years old and think like a ten-year-old child. Someone, too, can be twenty and
think like a fifty-year-old person. Don’t make the mistake of entering a
relationship because of age.
A relationship is for
mature people. Mature people are spiritually, financially, socially, mentally,
emotionally, and physically strong. You might not get a hundred percent mature
person. However, don’t enter a relationship because of age. Age can deceive. It
is maturity that counts.
2. Because of family
pressure
The pressure of family
and friends is also one of the vital reasons people enter a relationship. Don’t
allow family and friends to force you into a relationship you are not ready for.
Be decisive. Avoid excessive pressure because it is manipulation and
witchcraft.
Your family and friends
will not experience the heat in the relationship. You are the one who will
experience the ups and downs of the relationship. Secondly, it is your life,
not their life. Be bold and courageous and avoid any form of manipulation.
I know some people (the
Isaacs) who will not enter a relationship if you don’t push them. However,
don’t force anyone into marriage. You can advise, counsel, suggest, and
encourage someone to enter a relationship. However, don’t put pressure on
people to marry by force. Don’t enter a relationship because of excessive
pressure. Take your time. However, apply wisdom.
3. To shame certain
enemies
Some people, too, enter a
relationship because they want to humiliate enemies. They want to prove to
certain people that they are also significant. I don’t have time for certain
enemies. I encourage you to download and read my series of books on the enemy for more profound revelations.
The books are free on my
blog and youtube channel. Some enemies will not be satisfied even if you provide
evidence. These enemies will find ways to disprove your evidence. What will you
get to prove a point to an enemy?
I do something because
it’s my assignment. I don’t do something to prove a point to the enemy. I’m too
occupied to waste time on certain enemies. Don’t rush into a relationship
because some enemies are mocking you. It’s another level of witchcraft. Close
your eyes and ears to specific enemies. Enter a relationship because it’s time.
4. To overcome public ridicule
Some people, too, cannot
stand the public shame. One thing I have seen about myself is that I don’t have
time for gossip and things that will not add value. After all, people will talk
irrespective of our sincerity.
What will I get to prove
myself to an enemy? Enemies are not God? The one I fear most is God Almighty
(Christ Jesus). Christ Jesus, who lived a sinless life, had enemies. This
should tell you that enemies are bound to cross your path.
Enemies can plan and
attack. However, we can stop them (meditate on Isaiah 54:17, Luke 10:19, Ephesians
6:10-18, 1 Peter 5:8-9). It is how you respond that matters. I respect and
honor people.
However, I don’t prove
myself to certain people. I accomplish the task because it is the right thing.
No matter the gossip, false accusations, and insults, I do what I do if it’s
the right thing. I move if my conscience is clear that I am on the right path.
I don’t allow what others
say to destroy my focus. Why should you force yourself into a wrong
relationship? Let people mock you. It’s your problem, not their problem. As far
as you can see, it’s not the right time to focus on a relationship, focus on
the assignment.
I’m dead to false
accusations, insults, and gossip. I’m focused on the assignment. Know your priorities.
Know what is urgent, important, meaningful, and necessary. Don’t make the
mistake of entering a wrong relationship because of mockery.
It’s your life, not their
life. You must decide to enter a relationship at the right time. Don’t bow to
witchcraft (mockery, insults, gossip, slander, lies, false accusations, and
curses) because of the relationship.
Be led by the Holy Spirit.
I encourage you to download and read my series of books on
the Holy Spirit and the enemy for more profound revelations. The
books are free on my blog and youtube channel. A wrong relationship will
destroy you. The right relationship will build you. Apply knowledge.
5. Because of sex
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Some people enter a
relationship because they cannot control their emotions. Allowing your emotions
to control you is slavery. You can control your emotions because the Holy
Spirit lives in you (meditate on 1 John 3:9; 4:4).
Build a solid
relationship with the Holy Spirit. The lustful desires of the soul and flesh
will not dominate you when you become one with the Holy Spirit and the Word. God
created sex for a husband and wife.
As humans, we sometimes
feel like having sex. It happens to me several times. Sometimes I feel like having
sex. However, with the help of the Holy Spirit, I keep myself. If you don’t
have a desire to have sex, then there is something wrong with your sexual
hormones.
As humans, we will have
the desire to have sex once in a while because it’s in our system. However, if
you struggle with sexual desire, seek deliverance and counseling. I have had
discussions with married people about sex.
Some of them say sex is
nothing. Some say that it is good. Others say that sex is a responsibility. It
has become a responsibility because they don’t want to do it. Why should you
enter a relationship just because of sex?
God created sex. Yes,
it’s part of our nature. Even animals have sex. I know the pressure. I know you
have a strong desire to have sex. However, how long can you have sex? Can you
have sex the whole day?
It’s not possible! Sex is
a temporal “pleasure.” After the “pleasure,” what is next? Be realistic. You
cannot have sex the whole day, week, month and year. You have many things to do
after the act.
As some married couples
say, sex has become a responsibility because they don’t want to do it. Like
food, you will become tired of eating rice the whole week. A time will come when
you will push the rice away because you are fed up with it.
That is how sex has
become for some people. They are sick and tired of sex! Therefore, if you are
entering a relationship because of sex, think twice. You will be weary of it.
After five minutes or ten minutes, what is next? Be wise and think far! Sex is
part of marriage. It’s not the main thing. Greater tasks are ahead!
6. Because of children
Children are gifts from
God. Children in marriages can establish a relationship. However, the Holy
Spirit gives children. The Holy Spirit forms a child in the womb of a woman
when a man releases fertile sperm.
Science is using
unnatural ways to produce children. Today, there are hybrid humans. Some people
are half humans and half robots. As stated, children are gifts from God. Having
children in marriage is good.
However, that should not
be the main focus of the relationship. What if children refuse to enter the
relationship despite your input? If you are entering the relationship just because
of children, what will you do if you get the children?
Entering a relationship
with someone who only wants children is dangerous because that person can quit
the relationship after getting the children. After all, that person has what
she wants. Question anyone who wants to enter a relationship.
Is the person entering
the relationship just for children? If the person answers yes, the relationship
will not last because that person will break the relationship after getting
what he wants.
You are not the focus if
you are entering a relationship with someone with a child’s mentality. The
children are the focus. The person wants to use you to get what she wants. Children
are part of a lasting relationship. However, children should not be grounds for
the relationship. Apply knowledge!
7. Because of emotional
bondage
This is one of the
reasons most women enter marriage. As stated, most women are emotional beings. Some
women can provide for their needs and wants. However, they cry in their
chambers.
They feel empty because they
have ignored divine wisdom. These women need someone to feel their emotional
bareness, so they enter a relationship. Some men, too, enter a relationship
because of emotional barrenness. Emotions are temporal. Enter the relationship
with the right mindset.
8. Because of financial
bondage
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Some people, too, enter a
relationship because they want someone to solve their financial problems. Most
often, women enter a relationship to cover their financial shame. They need a
man who can provide for them.
There is nothing wrong
for a woman to depend on a man for finances. That is how God made it. The
husband must support the wife financially. However, a relationship is broad. Relationship
encompasses the emotional, spiritual, social, physical, mental, and financial.
Money solves many
problems. However, money has limitations. There are numerous marriages with
financial strength. However, the relationship is breaking. This should tell you
that money has limitations—some lazy and manipulative men, too, scout for financially
stable women.
They fish out these women
because they don’t want to work. Some lazy women, too, fish out financially
strong men. These women often enter the relationship because of what they can
get. If the man loses the money, they quit the relationship. Apply wisdom when
entering a relationship because some people are there because of what they can
squeeze out of you. They are not there to help but to heap assets.
9. Because of social
bondage
Some people enter a
relationship because they want friendship. This is one of the best keys to a
fruitful marriage because friends can last in a relationship. A friend is not
afraid to share ideas. Also, note that some people enter your life not for
marriage.
They want to be friends.
However, if you can work out this friendship and make it a marital one, it will
last. A true friend will not hide anything from you. He will be with you in the
storms—couples who are friends last in a relationship.
10. Because of physical
beauty
Some people enter a
relationship because of external beauty. They enter the relationship because
the person has a nice shape and six packs on the stomach. Maybe the person is
dark or fair in complexion.
Some people, too, look at
the breast, hairstyle, toes, nose, leg shape, hands, ears, height, and
structure of the buttocks (ass or bum). There is nothing wrong with marrying
someone with physical beauty.
However, physical beauty
should not be the foundational ground. Physical beauty is secondary. Entering a
relationship because of external beauty is deceptive and vain (meditate on Proverbs
31:30).
The real thing is the
inner beauty. I encourage you to read the previous articles for a more profound
revelation about beauty. You can also download and read my book, Wisdom Keys, subtitled (Divine
Keys to Higher Life) for a more profound revelation. The book is free on my
blog and youtube channel. Meditate on Proverbs 31:30 for more profound
revelation.
11. Because of
recommendations
Some people enter a
relationship because someone recommended the partner. Maybe a pastor, family
member, or friend suggested that a particular person will make the marriage
great. Some recommendations are good.
However, do your due diligence.
The fact that someone you love and respect recommended a partner does not mean
the relationship will work. You have to know the person. The person coming into
your life may not love or like you. The person might not be the right vessel to
complement the assignment. You have to know the person before agreeing because
it’s your life.
12. Because of status
Some people enter a
relationship because of status. Maybe they see that you are famous. Perhaps you
are a celebrity. Maybe you are from a royal family or have a respected
pedigree. Some people enter your life because of your educational status.
Don’t rush into a
relationship because fame is temporal. What if you lose your popularity? What
if people don’t celebrate you anymore? A relationship that stands on the altar
of status often needs the altar (status) fire burning to keep the relationship
working.
The relationship ends
when the status loses relevance because it is foundational ground. A status-based
relationship does not last. The person who enters your life because of your
status does not know your background.
That person comes into
your life because of the covering. The person doesn’t know the real you. She
knows what you have become. Be real. The real people will find you. If someone
can love you for what you are, that person can love you for what you become.
Those who only love you for what you have become may not stay if they see the
real you (who you were).
13. Because of religious
affiliation
Some people enter a
relationship because of the faith you profess. The moment you forsake your
faith, the relationship ends. Some, too, enter the relationship because of
their tribe. Entering a relationship just because the person is from your tribe
is not an assurance that the relationship will stand. Apply knowledge!
14. To acquire earthly property
Some people enter a
relationship to get assets. They are in a relationship because of what they can
get. That is their main plan. After getting what they want, they often divorce
or kill their partner.
15. Because of fantasies
Some people enter a
relationship because they read a book that superficially describes marriage.
Maybe they watched a video that made them attracted to a relationship. Most
often, people who enter a relationship because of a book they read or a video
they watched become confused because they expect the relationship to work in a
certain way.
The ideas and stories in
those books and videos might not be realistic because they are fictional. The
relationship starts crumbling because the ideas in those fictional materials
are not happening in reality. Entering a relationship with someone who has a fictional
(unreal) mindset about marriage is dangerous. The relationship will not last.
16. Because of pure love
Some people enter a
relationship to share and experience real love. True love is one of the vital
keys to a sustainable relationship (meditate on Ephesians 5:25,33, Colossians
3:19). Love is deep.
It varies and grows. Love
does the unthinkable. Love can make us do the impossible. However, you have to
know real and false love. I encourage you to download and read my book, What is Love, for more
profound revelations. The book is free on my blog and youtube channel.
17. To trap you
Some people enter the
relationship because it’s the devil’s assignment. Most often, the devil sends
people to break relationships. When the devil sees that a man has a great
future, it can send a wicked woman to destroy the man's focus.
If you are a woman of
purpose, the devil can send a wicked man to distract your purpose. Don’t doubt
this truth because the devil can engineer marriages. Some people have lost
their ministries because of wrong partners.
Some people couldn’t
complete their assignments because of bad relationships. It is not everyone who
comes into your life with good intentions. Some people are from the devil. They
enter your life to steal, kill, and destroy your purpose. I encourage you to
read the previous article for a more profound revelation about these wicked
people who
enter relationships to cause trouble.
18. Because of an
assignment
One of the best reasons
to enter a relationship is purpose. According to the Holy Bible, the foundation
for a successful relationship is purpose (meditate on Genesis 2:24, Amos 3:3).
The assignment directs the path of the relationship.
The assignment will
enable the woman to know her duty. For instance, a man who is into ministry
work and marrying a woman who is interested in things of God can build a relationship.
In the first place, the
man knows where he is going. The wife comes in to assist the husband. The
relationship will work when the man knows his assignment, and the woman
compliments the man’s assignment. I will end the article here. Hopefully, I
will continue in the next article. Kindly share the link to this article to
help others receive the knowledge that brings deliverance.
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